Last week, Tomi Lahren, a 23-year-old political commentator for The Blaze, ended her show by raising the following question:What, specifically, dear, do you mean?
“Is it just me, or have men gotten really soft these days?”
“This has nothing to do with sexuality. It has to do with the helplessness of today’s young men. It seems few can change a light bulb let alone fix a flat tire or change oil, and that makes for pretty slim pickings for the females out there looking for a match.
Chivalry is all but dead, and so is manliness. And by the way, wearing a flannel shirt and having a beard doesn’t make you a man if you still can’t change a tire and are scared of the dark. It seems like millennial men either don’t have jobs or are still using their parents’ credit cards to buy us drinks at the bar…Ahh, you're talking about the bar scene, and if you write for The Blaze, you're probably in a big city somewhere, probably a left-eaning city (but that's redundant). You're looking (as the song says) for love in all the wrong places. There are still men out there, you're just fishing in the wrong pond.
Get in your car and drive out of town. Drive for an hour or more, until there are more trees than buildings. If bars are your thing, look for the ones that have pickup trucks around them. There are men in there. Real men. Some have issues, some are almost dead broke, but they are men, with all their faults and foibles.
But, bars aren't the best place to find men. Especially if you don't know what a man is (and it seems that you're having trouble with definitions, having been dating in millennial bars). The men in there might scare you.
Better yet, find a church. If you have driven far enough south, you'll find churches everywhere. There are men in there too. Many times, singe men. Men who fear God, treat women like gold, and take time to get to know a woman before anything else much goes on. Men who know how to pray, who know how to wait for a friend, and know how to build a home. They'll have dreams, they'll have plans, and if you're lucky, they'll change those plans to fit you in.
She continues, though:
So whose fault is it? Is it our fault, ladies? Are we getting too strong? Nah, I don’t buy that. See, a real man knows how to handle a strong woman, so this isn’t our problem. Maybe it’s the way boys are raised these days: fatherless homes and no male role models. It’s hard to learn how to be a man with no man around.”Real men aren't afraid of strong women. Real men depend on strong women. Women who know how to be a partner rather than a dependent. But, you're right that it takes two parents to raise a man. Boys need a father figure, someone to teach them how to be a man. They also need a mother, who teaches them what is responsible, gives them an idea of how a strong woman deals with a strong man. It takes two to raise a family.
She finishes with a prayer:
“Please teach your sons to be men, because the women of the world are tired of the boys.”It seems if there is only one thing for her to do. Find a man, a real man, build a relationship, get married, and start raising a passel of children. Or, one, or two, with a strong man, and teach the children to become responsible, loving, adults.
This is a generational problem. Men aren't made in a day, and it's each generations challenge to raise the next generation of men (and women). I'd like to offer optimism, though. There are lots of veterans around, after almost 15 years of war. Good men, probably some of them ooking for good women. She can find these men, strong men, at any VA Hospital, any AmVets, or VFW lodge, or probably at the local bar. They'll normally be clean-shaven, with short hair. They'll be fit, because soldiers run PT every morning. And, generally, they will be men. Real men.
But, once again, a real man might scare you if you're not a strong woman.