Adultery

Over at YRHT, I find a link to this story, which talks about an affair between a pastor and a woman in his congregation. This sort of thing has been going on forever, and if you are a married man and believe that the pastor of your church won't boink your wife, then you better think again. All pastors won't, but some of them will, and if your wife is looking to play around, then she'll find a way.

The money quote is here:

After the affair between the two began, the lawsuit claims, (Pastor) Fehlauer advised Steve Benson to get over his marriage and move on.

Damned good advice. The good pastor knew that the marriage was over and gave the husband the best advice he could give him at the time.

Now, before anyone thinks that I am glossing over the good Pastor's involvement, I'm not. He held a position of special trust, and he shit all over it. Whatever the problems the pastor was having, he wasn't the one that ruined the marriage. The woman in this sordid tale bears the fault for that. Nothing is more corrosive to a marriage than extramarital sex. Extramarital sex ruins trust, and trust is the basis of a marriage. When that is gone, nothing else is left.

Sure, a marriage can survive an affair, but it takes hard work and lots of time to rebuild the trust that was lost in an instant. The wife knew the marriage was over the instant she draped her panties over the pastors bedstead. She wasn't honest enough to tell her husband beforehand that the marriage was over, and that is what destroys the trust.

Update: Junior corrected my spelling again. Good catch, Junior.